Stop asking "Why are you so silent?"

9:45 PM

Source: Nerdy Creator

As an introvert, I get this question all the time.

"Why are you so silent?"

I mean, I totally understand why they are asking the question,

....but it's so inappropriate!

To be honest, I always try to keep myself away from that kind of situation. That's why whenever I have close friends that I'm comfortable with, I would stick to them forever.

But as an adult, you need to try to go out of your comfort zone (who said this!?), so awkward situation like this will always be there.

As for myself, I can't help it.

I'm naturally an introvert. I'm naturally shy. I naturally enjoy being alone, or only in the middle of the people I already know.

When I happen to be in this kind of situation, I can't help to be awkward.

I try so hard not to be, but I just can't help it.

Usually, when this happen, I overthink all my moves toward people.

"Am I being too shy?"

"Am I being too awkward?"

"Am I being too silent?"

"Should I talk now?"

"Am I gonna look like I'm trying too hard?"

I hate that. I hate that sometimes. I hate when I think people will judge me for what I am: an awkward girl. Even though I'm not awkward once they get to know me (believe me, I'm so lay back when I'm around people I know).

People like me will always think that people will judge us. As an introvert who is also an optimist, I know that it's not always true that people will judge you as a bad person. Maybe most of them don't care of how shy you are at the first time you met, or they really do care but they don't mind at all.

Thought like this that keeps me trying.

But then there are those kind of people. People who, without thinking, ask "Why are you so silent?"

Do you realize how embarrass I am? Do you realize how offended I am? Do you know the dilemma that I'm feeling inside?

I'm usually "pretty good" dealing with one new people. I won't be shy. In fact, I would be super nice to you.

I usually shy when I'm surrounded by a group of new people, who already knew each other. ..So basically I'm the new people.

And so when this happened, and you pop the question, I have an answer for you:

Listen to this song.

Seriously, listen to that song.

The first time I listened to this song, I recently had an "accident" with a boy who popped the question in the middle of me-trying-hard-not-to-be-so-awkward. If I knew this song earlier, I would just put this song on and blasted it in full volume in front of his ears. And then he would bleed to death.

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  1. aku tipe yang extrovert kalo udah ngerasa nyaman banget sama lingkungannya


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